I ran across another article while doing some research for an article I am writing on a similar subject.
I found this article chilling in some aspects. Consider an excerpt from Stay-At-Home Moms: The Most Important Job in the World:
The search begins. For some reason, telephone poles seem to have become billboards around our community. I can stop at almost any intersection and read a number of flyers:
- Garage sale, 9 to 2, Sat. only
- Firewood, Maple & Fir, Delivered
- Reward: Have You Seen Our Golden Retriever?
- Quality Child Care in My Home
Quality child care? From a phone number stapled to a telephone pole along Hogan Road? Is that all the recommendation needed today to consider placing children in a strangerâ€™s care? Have we become so desperate?
Not long ago, I received a letter from Kendall, a young friend who works in a daycare center. It read: â€œWorking here for the past three years has given me a stark view of where families, especially women, are headed. Motherhood is no longer valued, and it is seen more as a mark of prestige than as the precious gift it truly is. Our little girls are growing up playing office, banker and travel agent while they take their baby dolls to a daycare center or sitter.â€?
That was a strong statement, so I called Kendall and asked her to tell me more about her concerns. She replied, â€œNot all mothers who bring their children to day care are bad mothers. But I see a lot of tired women who donâ€™t have any patience at the end of the day. I see too many of them whisk their kids off to another babysitter for the evening while they do things for themselves.
When Kendall was little, she played house. There was a mommy and a daddy â€œThese little girls donâ€™t play house,â€? she told me. â€œThey never cook a meal; they microwave everything. I never see them nurturing their dolls. They just put them in a crib and have their friends take care of them. These little girls all want to be like boys. Theyâ€™re very competitive, but theyâ€™re not at all nurturing.â€?
Kendall works in a daycare center because she loves children. She has no ax to grind with day care and no grudge to bear against mothers, Sheâ€™s merely reporting what she sees. And what she sees is too many mothers forgetting to nurture and using child-care workers as substitute parents. And she sees little girls mimicking their mommies â€” putting their baby dolls aside and going to the office.
Our children learn by our example. Momma at home is vital. Too many times the wonderful aspirations of family, babies and home are traded for office work and day-care. The corporate woman has neutralized her femininity. The competition with men is endless and she will never be satisfied in her quest to rule or even exist in the domain that isn’t hers to be in. Her domain is in the home and her role is that of wife and mother. She is queen ruler. She is the chief managing officer. Most homes today are worn and rusty, missing the much needed care and supervision of a full time mother. The well–oiled machine has been abandoned as the fairy princess has galloped off to another land hoping to find fulfillment, only to ultimately bring her home into a state of ruins.
Like I have said before, as a stay-at-home mother, our job is not that of baby-sitter or thumb-twiddler. Running a household requires more years of training than any college degree. The results of this lack of education and training are seen in today’s woman, who scarcely knows a fraction of what was commonly known amongst the least educated woman a century ago in regards to homemaking and raising children. Unfortunately, our modern society holds such a low view of motherhood and homemaking, that many of us received little, if any, preparation and education for the job we now hold. That is not an excuse for not executing our roles properly; self-learning and education are available to us all. I am encouraged to see a new generation of women being raised with the understanding that homemaking and motherhood are vitally important. It is awesome to see some of these young women who already have become proficient in the arts and skills of homemaking. I see how prepared they are for marriage and how incredibly suited and comfortable they are in their roles as wife, mother and homemaker. There is much satisfaction in being the queen of your own domain.