Ask any mother who has boys and she will tell you a tale that is sure to dazzle you….a true tale of the mysterious wonder of what we call…. a boy! The simple fact is boys are different than girls no matter how loud the feminist scream! They act different. The learn different. The play different! They are not girls and neither should we try to put them in the “girly box”.
Having 4 boys of my own…and 4 very male boys, our life is full of interesting twists and events. I grew up in a family of boys so my experience as being a mother of boys is only a sweet continuation of the antics and experiences I had as a child. I love boys and their energy and vigor for life. I love the creative zeal and though I don’t quite understand how their brain functions, I appreciate the incredible vastly different set of wiring bestowed upon them.
Looking at the biblical roles of a man, you can see all the more clearly of why boys are the way they are. The are leaders, protectors, providers, dominion takers. They solve problems and fix things…They are aggressive…They are rough and tough…even at 3 years old. All this for a reason.
Feminism has sought to wage an all out attack upon our boys from the church house to the school house to even the home.
Kevin Swanson has a must read article on “The War Against Boys” in which he states,
“Today we sit in a “gender blender.” For parents with vision, for parents who take the raising of their children seriously, we must go back to the Owner’s Manual and define a vision for raising our sons and daughters.”
Mr. Swanson also has an online audio interview called The War Against Boys. Kevin Swanson interviews Christina Hoff Sommers author of The War Against Boys: How Misguided Feminism Is Harming Our Young Men.
If you have a boy, you need to listen to this interview.
So how do we protect our boys from this perversion? The family is the greenhouse for young children to grow and mature. Father and mother both play vital role in teaching boys. For the first several years, young boys generally spend most of their time with mom, however, as they get older, they need to spend more and more time with dad learning the ways of manhood. We know many home educators whose boys are completely home schooled by their father once they reach a certain age.
Even in the home school setting, it is important not to neutralize the home education of our children. The focus of education is teaching them the ways of the Lord and His design for their lives. Everything else flows out of that premise. In relation to boys, we use lots of boy related books and activities that promote healthy, moral boyhood and water the appetite for good literature and work. While many subjects and activities can be done with both girls and boys, I think that it is important to gear most of a boy’s home education from an approach that engages his masculinity and promotes his manhood from a Biblical perspective. In the same way, a girl’s education can easily be distinctly feminine.
Some ways to cultivate role distinctiveness in home education:
“How to” books are excellent for boys. Currently, the boys are working on making batteries from lemons, coins, foil and wire. They enjoy Henty books, books about catapults (thanks to this book we have three catapults in our woods), mystery solving books. Boys are interested in how things work, the nuts and bolts of something, in big bugs and mysterious animals. They thrive on adventure and conquest and dominion. Logic and solving problem books or activities inspire them.
Creative play with legos, wooden blocks and lincoln logs; simple things like ropes and sticks or more complex things like electronic or science kits are excellent for a boy’s mind. Our newly 6 year old built a house out of wooden blocks and wired it with scrap wire. He inserted a small flash light light bulb and attached it to a battery and wire to produce a house with a real working light. Boys will learn far more from this sort of play learning because it engages those boy brain functions that are dulled or lulled to sleep in a feministic environment.
In addition to the normal handwriting, phonics, spelling, one other way we promote education for our boys in a way they can thrive in, is by “Man School”. We started “Man School” in an effort to further promote healthy boyhood and education at the same time. We took the strengths and interests of boys and how they are naturally wired and tried to put together activities that they would not only love, but would learn from. “Man School” is not for babies or girls (the girls have Lady School). “Man School” is just for boys – energetic boys that are bursting at the seams to do something!
“Man School” may be sending the boys out to the back to work on their catapults they built in the trees. They have various “weapons”, i.e. junk, they have collected that sit disorderly around the launching site: A old cooking pot, a engine belt, a brick and about 10 other various items. In “Man School”, I might tell the boys to go out and work on the catapult but here are their assignments. I hand them a paper with these problems.
- Write down each “weapon” you fire from your catapult.
- What is the weight and shape of each “weapon”?
- Write down which “weapon” went the farthest and why?
- How many feet did it go? How many yards?
- Write down the “weapon” that was the most ineffective and why?
- Measure the length of distance each “weapon” went in feet and yards.
Other various problems may include measuring the circumferences of the trees in our yard and locating the biggest trees, drawing maps of them, calculating heights, identifying types and estimating age. Another “Man School” activity may be to measure the perimeter of the garden and to double and triple the perimeter by staking out their calculations using flags. “Man School” may be as simple as going to a business meeting with dad or working on a business plan. We are working to identify a host of other projects and activities that engage and challenge boys. Boys that work on this type of thing need not be drugged because they are forced to sit in a feminized classroom talking about how they feel about the rain forests.
Our goal is to produce powerfully effective manly leaders who understand their roles as men from a Biblical perspective, who protect women and children, who honor their elders, who fight for what is right and who despise wickedness and seek to do much damage to the kingdom of darkness. These are real men. Real men are not produced in the government feminist factories, they are produced, with God’s grace, by mothers and fathers who follow God’s pattern for the education of their children.
For further study on boys: (These are all web audios)
Created for Work interview with the author Bob Schultz (who has written a number of books on raising boys.) We are reading his book, Created for Work, to our boys and it is an excellent resource for encouraging the biblical work ethic.
Teaching Boys to Delight in Work – Applying knowledge to real life — something schools do not do!
The Youth Fetish and the Myth of Adolescence – Interview with twin 18 year old young men who run the website www.therebelution.com