Queen of my own domain

I ran across another article while doing some research for an article I am writing on a similar subject.
I found this article chilling in some aspects. Consider an excerpt from Stay-At-Home Moms: The Most Important Job in the World:

The search begins. For some reason, telephone poles seem to have become billboards around our community. I can stop at almost any intersection and read a number of flyers:

  • Garage sale, 9 to 2, Sat. only
  • Firewood, Maple & Fir, Delivered
  • Reward: Have You Seen Our Golden Retriever?
  • Quality Child Care in My Home

Quality child care? From a phone number stapled to a telephone pole along Hogan Road? Is that all the recommendation needed today to consider placing children in a stranger’s care? Have we become so desperate?
Not long ago, I received a letter from Kendall, a young friend who works in a daycare center. It read: “Working here for the past three years has given me a stark view of where families, especially women, are headed. Motherhood is no longer valued, and it is seen more as a mark of prestige than as the precious gift it truly is. Our little girls are growing up playing office, banker and travel agent while they take their baby dolls to a daycare center or sitter.�
That was a strong statement, so I called Kendall and asked her to tell me more about her concerns. She replied, “Not all mothers who bring their children to day care are bad mothers. But I see a lot of tired women who don’t have any patience at the end of the day. I see too many of them whisk their kids off to another babysitter for the evening while they do things for themselves.
When Kendall was little, she played house. There was a mommy and a daddy “These little girls don’t play house,� she told me. “They never cook a meal; they microwave everything. I never see them nurturing their dolls. They just put them in a crib and have their friends take care of them. These little girls all want to be like boys. They’re very competitive, but they’re not at all nurturing.�
Kendall works in a daycare center because she loves children. She has no ax to grind with day care and no grudge to bear against mothers, She’s merely reporting what she sees. And what she sees is too many mothers forgetting to nurture and using child-care workers as substitute parents. And she sees little girls mimicking their mommies — putting their baby dolls aside and going to the office.

Our children learn by our example. Momma at home is vital. Too many times the wonderful aspirations of family, babies and home are traded for office work and day-care. The corporate woman has neutralized her femininity. The competition with men is endless and she will never be satisfied in her quest to rule or even exist in the domain that isn’t hers to be in. Her domain is in the home and her role is that of wife and mother. She is queen ruler. She is the chief managing officer. Most homes today are worn and rusty, missing the much needed care and supervision of a full time mother. The welloiled machine has been abandoned as the fairy princess has galloped off to another land hoping to find fulfillment, only to ultimately bring her home into a state of ruins.
Like I have said before, as a stay-at-home mother, our job is not that of baby-sitter or thumb-twiddler. Running a household requires more years of training than any college degree. The results of this lack of education and training are seen in today’s woman, who scarcely knows a fraction of what was commonly known amongst the least educated woman a century ago in regards to homemaking and raising children. Unfortunately, our modern society holds such a low view of motherhood and homemaking, that many of us received little, if any, preparation and education for the job we now hold. That is not an excuse for not executing our roles properly; self-learning and education are available to us all. I am encouraged to see a new generation of women being raised with the understanding that homemaking and motherhood are vitally important. It is awesome to see some of these young women who already have become proficient in the arts and skills of homemaking. I see how prepared they are for marriage and how incredibly suited and comfortable they are in their roles as wife, mother and homemaker. There is much satisfaction in being the queen of your own domain.

To Be Continued: Part Two………..

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  • […] To continue from Queen of my Own Domain:  The article,  Stay-At-Home Moms: The Most Important Job in the World, goes on to say, “I know there are many moms who have children still at home and who truly have no choice but to work outside the home. For them, it isn’t just a matter of wanting to maintain a certain lifestyle. Even in those cases, however, as in all others, a mother’s care is the preferred choice. I don’t say that to make anyone feel guilty; it’s just a fact. “  I would agree that in our culture, there are circumstances where mothers are working outside the home not by choice but out of what seems desperate necessity.  I have seen mothers struggle with wanting to be with their children but feel as if they have no other option.  However, it is quite possible for even these mothers to escape the daily work grind away from their home and focus their energies on working in their home. There are countless opportunities for those that truly seek to be home with their children. I have seen women quit the corporate job and come home to their children.  Home-based businesses are a reality.  I am not saying it is easy, but it is possible.  For those seeking to stay at home, but needing to maintain an income for their home because of circumstances such as being a single mother, the road may be longer and harder but well worth it.  We all know of the Proverbs 31 woman who loved and served her husband as well as maintained her home and trained her children with excellence.  We read of her working within her home producing and contributing to the home economy.  We read of her as a skilled, educated and knowledgeable manager of her own home, not as an independent career woman.  As women, we can contribute to the economy of the home in many ways.  We can bring in an income in unique ways.  We can also add to the economy of the home through wise shopping expenditures.  As we support our husband, train our children and manager our home, we find true fulfillment.     Too many times the interworkings of the home are completely ignored and abandoned.  Many times the neglect is unintentional.  In our modern culture, home life is not stressed as something important or in need of care.  However, once women awake to the fact that their home and family are in desperate need of their specific skills, the art of homemaking begins to take on new meaning.  A wise women builds her own home, but the foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.  (Proverbs 14:1) […]